How to Rock New Year’s on Your Own Terms

As the calendar flips to 2026, the world starts buzzing with "New Year, New You" slogans. But let’s be honest: we’ve spent decades becoming the women we are today. We don’t need a “new” version of ourselves; we just need a new year to showcase the incredible, vibrant You!

Whether you are surrounded by the joyful chaos of family, clinking glasses with lifelong friends, or sitting in the beautiful, intentional silence of your own home, this transition is yours to own. New Year's isn't just a date; it’s a celebration of our legacy and our future.

Navigating Your New Year’s Circle

Friendships and family are the heartbeat of our lives, but the "vibe" changes depending on who is at the table. Here is how to rock whatever circle you find yourself in this year:

The Family Anchor

If your house is full of noise and multiple generations, remember that you are the bridge.

• The Rockstar Move: Don’t get stuck in the kitchen. Make sure you’re in the photos and leading the toasts. Share one "life lesson" from 2025 that surprised you—your wisdom is the best gift in the room.

The "Power Couples" & The Plus-One Power

Whether you are part of a long-standing duo or the solo star in a room of couples, your presence is vital.

• The Rockstar Move: If you're with couples, break the "partner bubble" by starting a group conversation about individual dreams. If you’re solo, own it. You aren't a "half" looking for a whole; you are a complete, vibrant woman. Your independence is a superpower—wear it like a silk scarf.

The "Mixed Bag" & The Sisters’ Night In

There is magic in a group of women from all walks of life—married, single, divorced, or widowed.

• The Rockstar Move: Try a "Rose and Thorn" toast. Each person shares one struggle from the past year (the thorn) and one beautiful success (the rose). Or, if it’s just the "sisters," do a Future-Self Ritual: write down one bold, slightly "crazy" dream for 2026 and let your friends be the witnesses to your next chapter.

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To the Woman Embracing Solitude

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. If you are spending this New Year’s solo, treat yourself like the VIP you are.

• The Rockstar Move: Ditch the "sad salad." Set the table with your finest china, pour the good wine, and watch that movie you love that no one else likes. This isn't a "night off"—it's an audience with the most interesting person you know: yourself.

To the Woman Feeling a Little Lost

If this year brought loss, or if the holidays feel heavier than they used to, please know that your strength is still there—even if it’s quiet right now. You don't have to "rock on" at full volume today; sometimes, a gentle hum of resilience is enough. You are part of a sisterhood that has your back.

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The "Older Women Rock" New Year Manifesto

1. I will not make resolutions based on shame. No "fixing" myself—only flourishing.

2. I will prioritize my peace. If I want to be in bed by 10 PM, I will go to bed at 10 PM.

3. I will celebrate my survival. 2025 wasn't always easy, but I’m still standing, still learning, and still rocking.

How are you ringing in the New Year? Leave a comment below—I want to hear about your plans, your quiet moments, and your boldest dreams for 2026!

Marge Farrington  OWRO

 

Christmas Morning, BitterSweet

 

Sitting here on Christmas morning, it is quiet. Memories flow of childhood Christmas mornings, memories of my own children waking up, excited about the day.

The times they all came over the holidays with their own families.. I am grateful for those memories. The quiet is comforting, yet it reminds me ot the voices I miss, the excitement that was once in the air. This is a hard time for many, Bittersweet. It brings home the losses of life, along with the beautiful memories. I know that I need to feel all of it, the bitter and the sweet. That is what life is...I often say, life is like a roller coaster, sometimes you just have to hold on.

As I go through the day, it will be like that, feelings of joy, sadness, gratitude. I need to let them all flow through me. Taking time to reflect, taking time to hope. Take time to make new memories, simple things become so meaningful. A cup of coffee or tea today with a cookie or treat you don't usually have...call someone you haven't talked to in awhile. Watch a favorite movie...right now I have a YouTube video playing with a beautiful Christmas Living Room with snow falling outside.

Wishing you a beautiful Christmas. Let me know in the comments what you found to bring you comfort today.

Marge Farrington OWRO

Stop Fighting What "Should Be" and Start Living What Is

As we step into 2026, I’ve been thinking a lot about the private conversations we have with ourselves. You know the ones. We’re facing a tough situation—maybe a health hiccup, a family drama, or just one of those days where nothing goes right—and that little voice in our head starts its protest:

"I shouldn't have to deal with this." "It isn't fair." "They shouldn't have said that to me." "It wasn't supposed to be this way."

It feels natural, doesn't it? It feels like we’re standing up for ourselves. But I caught a video recently that really made me pause. It reminded me that when we spend our time arguing with reality, the only person losing the argument is us. We end up wasting so much time and energy in a tug-of-war with things we can't change.

The Energy Drain

Think about how much "heart-space" we waste when we're stuck in the should-haves. Since it’s a new year, it’s so easy to look back at the past and get caught in the "could’ve, would’ve, should’ve" cycle.

At this stage of our lives, our energy is precious. We’ve worked too hard to spend it wrestling with the past or shouting at the present. Whether it’s a regret from twenty years ago or a rude comment from twenty minutes ago, the reality is that it happened. When we tell ourselves it "shouldn't" be happening, we aren't fixing it—we’re just adding a layer of exhaustion on top of the problem.

A New Way to Look at It

What if, this year, we try a different approach?

Instead of saying "This shouldn't be happening," what if we say, "This is what is happening. Now, what am I going to do about it?"

By dropping the argument with ourselves, we free up all that wasted power. We stop being victims of "unfairness" and start being the women of action we’ve always been. It’s not about liking the situation; it’s about accepting that it’s there so we can move through it and find our peace.

Let’s Share Our Wisdom

I know I’m not the only one who gets stuck in these mental loops, and I also know that this Older Women Rock community is full of incredible life experience. I want to hear from you!

• How do you stop yourself when you realize you’re arguing with reality?

• Do you have a mantra or a little trick that helps you shift from "This shouldn't be" to "I can handle this"?

• What is one "should-have" from your past that you are officially letting go of for 2026?

Please share your ideas and thoughts in the comments. Your insight might be exactly what another sister needs to hear today to help her stop looking back and start rocking the here and now.

Marge Farrington OWRO

 

Aging Gratefully

Something now in my late 60's I have just realized. I can see it when I am out at a store and have a short conversation with people younger than me. I see it in their eyes, their expression. It's like they don't hear what I am saying, they just see the age on my face. I wonder if I did this when I was younger. 

Funny, up to the last couple of years, walking, talking, I didn't feel different, even after foot surgery, I just looked at it as something I needed to do, to just get through it. If you've ever had foot surgery, there is a lot of pain, healing and a ton of patience needed. 

But it's just recently not because of my body, it's the feeling I get out in public. Everything has a title now I guess it's ageism, Invisible Woman Phenomenon, I just know it's how I feel. I have never been one who cared to be noticed. That is not what this is about, sometimes I am sure it's just me.

I still look through a window at the world, but now it feels like younger people look at me like a mirror of their own fears about aging, or at least a reminder.

How can i get across that growing up I saw my grandmother as beautiful. Her white, soft hair, her beautiful eyes, the sound of her voice. I looked forward to her hugs. I missed that when she died.

Our society is focused on youth. How to stay young, dread getting older, like we do something wrong when we age. It's funny, experience counts in jobs, in careers, many people love old houses, antiques...men ...

The "Silver Fox" trope: Men like George Clooney or Harrison Ford are seen as having reached their peak attractiveness in their 50s and 60s.

The Narrative: For men, aging is often seen as "character building." Each line on a man’s face is treated like a badge of experience. For women, those same lines are often treated as something to be "corrected" or hidden,

I’ve been looking at the women who refuse to hide, the ones who treat their faces like a victory lap rather than a tragedy to be fixed. The Relatable Rebels: Sally Field & Jamie Lee Curtisake Sally Field. She’s been honest about the fact that she doesn't always love what she sees in the mirror—she’s human! She recently called the idea that we should be ashamed of aging a "crock." She refuses to go under the knife because she finds her satisfaction in the natural beauty of being a grandmother and a woman who has earned her place. She is proof that you can be "unseen" by a shallow industry while remaining profoundly powerful and authentic.

Then there’s Jamie Lee Curtis, our "Pro-Aging" warrior. She doesn't pretend it’s easy. She admitted, "Of course I care" about how I look, but she cares more about the truth. By embracing her silver hair and mocking the "duck lip" filler trends, she’s telling us that the "cosmeceutical industrial complex" doesn't own her. Her face belongs to her, and her alone.The "Elderesses": Frances McDormand & Emma Thompson

Frances McDormand doesn't want to be "young"—she wants to be an "Elderess." She views her wrinkles as "nature’s way of tattooing," a road map of every laugh, every grief, and every lesson. To her, an older woman isn't "fading"; she is a walking card catalogue of invaluable information.

Emma Thompson takes it a step further, calling the pressure to stay unlined a "form of collective psychosis." She wants her face to move. She wants her children to see when she is "pissed, happy, or confounded." She showed her untreated body on screen in her 60s to remind us that our bodies at this age aren't a secret to be kept—they are a story still worth telling.

The Swagger: Helen Mirren

Finally, there is Helen Mirren, who at 80, hates the phrase "aging gracefully." She prefers "Aging Gratefully." She views every year as a lucky opportunity to stay engaged with the world. She calls her makeup bag her "Swagger Bag"—not because she’s hiding her age, but because she’s using her style to announce her confidence.

So, with them in mind, I am posting a photo of myself on this blog.

Thanks Helene, I like "Aging Gratefully."

Let me know in the comments how you are aging gratefully! This is a sbuject to be continued!

Marge Farrington OWRO

The image is mine 

Spreading Warmth and Connection This Holiday Season!

The air is crisp, the lights are twinkling, and there's that undeniable hum of the holiday season all around us. Here at Older Women Rock On, we're feeling it too – that unique blend of reflection, anticipation, and a deep appreciation for the people who make our lives richer.

This time of year often brings a flurry of activity, and while the festive decorations and delicious treats are certainly delightful, what truly resonates with us is the spirit of togetherness. It's about those quiet moments of shared laughter, a comforting presence, and the simple act of reaching out.

As we navigate these special weeks, let's remember the power of genuine connection. Whether it's a phone call to a long-distance friend, a warm embrace with a family member, or a kind word to a neighbor, these small gestures are the real gifts we give and receive. Let’s be present for each other, offering an ear, a hand, or simply a moment of understanding.

The holidays, in all their varied forms, are a wonderful reminder to cherish those bonds. So, from our hearts to yours, we wish you a season filled with authentic joy, comforting companionship, and a deep sense of belonging.

Happy Holidays, everyone. And remember, Older Women Rock On, Together.

Marge Farrington OWRO

 

Rocking Around the Christmas Tree: 5 Ways to Stay Vibrant This Week!

Hello, wonderful women! We are officially in the heart of the holiday season. While this time of year is filled with magic, it can also be a whirlwind of "to-do" lists and expectations. But remember—we don’t just "get through" the holidays; we Rock On through them!

Being vibrant isn't about doing everything; it’s about doing the things that keep your spirit bright and your energy high. Here are five simple, practical ways to stay glowing, healthy, and connected no matter where you are in the world this week.

1. Movement: Glow While You Walk

Don’t let the busy schedule keep you stationary. Turn your daily walk into a "Holiday Light Tour." Bundle up, head out, and enjoy the decorations in your community. Getting those steps in while soaking up the festive atmosphere is the perfect way to keep your heart healthy and your mood lifted.

2. Creativity: Quick DIY Holiday Sparkle

You don't need a craft room full of supplies to add a festive touch to your home. Try a simple "Nature’s Decor" project: gather some pinecones, evergreen sprigs, or even colorful stones. Place them in a glass bowl with a few lights or ornaments, and you have an elegant, handmade centerpiece that brings the beauty of the season indoors.

3. Connection: The "Digital Hug"

If family and friends are far away this Christmas, don't let the distance dim your spirit. Schedule a "Cocoa & Catch-up" video call. Put on your favorite festive scarf, grab a mug of something warm, and lean into the technology that keeps us close. Seeing those smiling faces and sharing a laugh is the best energy boost there is!

4. Community: Discover Local Magic

Every town has its own hidden holiday gems. Take a moment to check your local news or community boards for last-minute events, like a choir performance, a small-town parade, or a holiday market. Stepping out into your local community is a great way to feel the collective spirit of the season.

5. Spirit: The Power of the "Rock On" Mindset

Finally, remember to be kind to yourself. Your vibrancy comes from your joy, not your perfection. If things aren't "picture perfect," laugh it off! Take five minutes every morning to simply breathe, reflect on your strength, and appreciate the woman you’ve become.

Now, I want to hear from YOU! How are you keeping your spark bright and "rocking on" through the holiday rush this year? Whether it’s a favorite high-energy song that gets you moving, a secret for stress-free decorating, or a local tradition you love, please share your tips and holiday wisdom in the comments below. Let’s inspire one another to make this our most vibrant season yet!

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Rock on, ladies, and have a beautiful, vibrant Christmas week!

Marge Farrigton OWRO

 

The Unhurried Arrival of the New Year

There is a specific kind of noise that happens every January. It’s a frantic, high-pitched hum of people trying to outrun their shadows, making lists of things they want to fix, change, or delete about themselves.

As women who have seen our share of winters, we know better. We know that the calendar turning is not a magic wand, and frankly, we’ve worked too hard on our souls to treat them like projects that need "fixing."

Standing here at the edge of a new year, I don’t feel the need for a "clean slate." I like the marks on my slate. They are proof of the life I’ve claimed. Instead of resolutions, I like who I am!

One of the favorite parts of this stage of life is that the "approval seeking"  has stopped.  This year, I am looking forward to the luxury of selective presence. I am no longer interested in being everywhere or knowing everyone. I am looking forward to the deep, quiet satisfaction of choosing exactly where my energy goes—and, where it doesn't. There is a fierce, quiet joy in being "unavailable" to the trivial so that I can be fully present for the profound.

Finding the "Deep Resonance"

In our youth, everything was new, but nothing had context. Now, we have the gift of recognition. When we see the first light of a January morning or feel the cold air on our skin, it is a weather event, and an experience, a memory. 

This year, I’m looking forward to living in the "thick" of things—listening to music that makes my ribcage ache, having conversations that skip the weather and go straight to the heart, and noticing the intricate beauty of a life that has been well-worn. We aren't just passing through time anymore; we are the keepers of it.

The world expects older women to either become invisible or become brittle. I choose neither. I am looking forward to a softened edge. A conscious decision to remain malleable. I want to be surprised. I want to change my mind because I’ve learned something new. I want to be the woman who laughs too loud at her own jokes and wears the velvet coat just because it feels good against her skin.

We are "Older Women Rock" not because we are trying to stay young, but because we have finally mastered the instruments of our own lives. We know the chords. We know when to belt it out and when to let the silence speak.

So, let’s leave the "New Year, New Me" talk to the amateurs about starting over; it’s about finally playing the music exactly the way we want to!

Marge Farrington OWRO

Embracing the Silence, Reclaiming the Spotlight: Finding Your Value When the Holidays Hurt

The holiday season is an emotional magnifying glass. While the world flashes images of perfect togetherness, for many of us, especially as older women, this time of year can amplify a profound and painful sense of loneliness and invisibility.

The emotional accumulation of aging is heavy during the holidays. You have memories of past gatherings, the missing faces of loved ones, the grown children who are starting their own traditions, and the overall shift in family dynamics. These memories underscore a deep, year-round challenge: the feeling that our traditional roles have changed, leaving us uncertain where we fit in the festive picture.

If you are an older woman, you know the feeling of becoming invisible. Your career may have slowed down or ended. The caregiving tasks have diminished. The phone rings less often for advice. Your traditional roles—the tireless mother, the dedicated employee, the social glue—have changed, leaving a gap where a huge part of your identity used to be.

When our external roles shift, we often look outside ourselves for confirmation that we are still needed, wanted, and valued.

As the wise woman I recently found on YouTube, @lifeover60withIva, reminds us in her video "Invisible," that search for validation outside of ourselves is a trap. It keeps us powerless. We must use this quiet, sometimes difficult, holiday season to redirect our focus and reclaim our inner power.

1. The Mirror Work Revolution: Your Most Important Conversation

One of the most powerful concepts I've discovered is Mirror Work or Positive Self-Talk. This isn't just fluffy feel-good advice; it is a profound practice that rewires your brain.

Think about it: Your mind and body feel what you say. If you spend your days criticizing your wrinkles, your weight, or your memory, your body internalizes that negativity. The negativity we project onto ourselves can make the loneliness of the holidays feel utterly overwhelming.

The Power of the Catch: I've started catching myself whenever a negative thought sneaks in. If I think, "I look tired today," I immediately turn it around: "I am grateful for all the energy my body gives me. I am vibrant and kind."

The Daily Compliment: Look in the mirror—yes, actually look—and say something genuinely positive out loud. "I am an intelligent, insightful woman." "I am a loyal friend and a survivor." You are not being conceited; you are being your own best friend. The validation you crave has to start with the person looking back at you.

Your value is not determined by who sees you; it is determined by who you know yourself to be.

2. Redefining "Needed": The Power of the Shifted Role

The transition from a life defined by roles like "mom," "caregiver," or "boss" to one focused on "me" can feel less like freedom and more like being discarded. You may feel like you’re not needed anymore.

But your value is not tied to your utility to others. Your role hasn't disappeared; it has evolved.

From Giving Time to Gaining Time: If your children don't need daily help, that doesn't mean you're useless. It means you have successfully raised independent adults! You have earned this time.

Old Role: Caretaker.

New Role: Mentor, Guide, and Self-Nurturer.

A Shift in Focus: Use the quiet spaces—even the quiet spaces during the holidays—to invest in yourself. This is the season for that novel you always wanted to write, the language you wanted to learn, the fitness goal you put off, or the activism that stirs your soul.

You Are the Architect of Your Second Act: When we let go of the need to be needed in the old ways, we make room to be chosen for the new, exciting ways we want to contribute.

3. Actionable Antidotes for the Season

Since the holidays are here, here are a few immediate things you can do to address the emotional weight:

Acknowledge the Loss, Then Act: It's okay to have a "grief moment" for the way things used to be. Allow yourself to feel it. Then, shift your focus to a simple, actionable item—volunteering at a local shelter, baking cookies for a neighbor, or planning a solo day trip. Contribution is the opposite of invisibility.

Redefine Your Traditions: You are the boss of your holiday. If a huge meal is too much, order takeout. If you don't want to travel, set up a special video call. Your new tradition can simply be rest.

Be the Initiator: Don't wait for others to call. Make a list of 5-10 people and send a handwritten card or make a 10-minute call. You are the spark of connection you are waiting for.

You are not invisible. You are simply stepping out of the spotlight you built for others and taking center stage in your own life. Start talking kindly to yourself today, and the world will follow your lead.

Thank you to @lifeover60withIva for sharing her wisdom on this topic. Watch her insightful video  Here

Marge Farrington OWRO

☘️ Older Women Rock On: Why Three is the Magic Number for Clarity and Fun!

It’s Not Luck, It’s Irish Logic!

Like many of you, I have roots that stretch back to the Emerald Isle—40% Irish, to be exact! My mother was fiercely proud of our heritage, and recently, a brilliant professor popped up on my YouTube feed who has made me feel even closer to those roots: Professor Kate Chadbourne.

She’s a Professor of Irish language and folklore, and she brings the ancient world to life! In fact, she even speaks the historical tongue of the sagas—the rich, complex language known as Old Irish (or Sean-Ghaeilge).

Professor Chadbourne recently shared a fascinating concept: the Triadic Structure (or Thinking in Threes). This isn't just folklore; it’s a powerful, ancient system for organizing our chaotic, beautiful lives. Forget complicated five-step plans; we just need three!

Section 1: The Sacred Rhythm of the Shamrock 🍀

In Irish culture, the number three is everywhere and represents wholeness, balance, and flow.

You see it in the art, like the beautiful Triskele spiral, and in the religious symbolism of the Shamrock.

This love of three is actually a deep cognitive tool. Our brains love three. It’s the Goldilocks number: one is too simple, four is too complicated, but three is just right.

Think about how every good joke or story has a beginning, a middle, and an end. The third element provides the satisfying closure!

The Rock-On Takeaway: Thinking in threes gives your brain a ready-made filing system for life's complicated details, making everything instantly less overwhelming.

Section 2: Three Things to Remember Every Special Time (Holiday Edition!)

We take photos, but the true feeling of a special day often fades into a blur. We can prevent this loss by borrowing the power of the Triad to crystalize our memories.

This idea is especially powerful for busy times like the holidays or any big upcoming event, when moments can rush by! Instead of trying to document everything, you can actively decide, "I will capture just three things." This prevents the memory from becoming an overwhelming jumble of facts.

The next time you are enjoying a milestone, a gathering, or a holiday dinner, consciously commit to remembering just three things. This is the Memory Triad:

1. The Sensory Detail (The "Feel")

Why it works: It ties the moment to your immediate senses.

What to Remember: The specific smell of the pine or a special meal; the sound of a loved one's unique laugh; the way the firelight warmed the room.

2. The Core Emotion (The "Why")

Why it works: Emotion is the glue of memory.

What to Remember: Name the single strongest feeling: Joy, Peace, Pride, or Connection.

3. The Defining Action (The "What")

Why it works: It captures the event's climax or a unique interaction.

What to Remember: The exact quote someone said that made you laugh; the final, triumphant cheer; the first bite of a special meal.

Pro-Tip for the Holidays: Before your next big event, decide what three things you hope to capture. This focused intention will make the day richer, and the memory crystal clear later!

Section 3: The Triad of an Organized Rock-On Life

Let's put this Irish wisdom to work! We can use this simple structure to tackle daily life, projects, and even big problems.

1. Organize Your To-Do List:

Stop making endless lists! Use the Triad of Action:

Capture: Brain Dump every thought onto one page.

Group: Cluster it into three categories (like Home, Work, Self).

Act: Pick the top three items from those lists—and only do those three things today.

2. Structure Your New Habits:

New habits can feel daunting. Give them a framework:

Pre-Game: Prepare for success (e.g., Lay out your workout clothes.)

Main Event: Execute the task (e.g., Do the walk.)

Review: Solidify the habit (e.g., Stretch and plan the next walk.)

3. Handle Any Problem:

When a challenge pops up, don't let anxiety take over. Define your path in three parts:

The Problem: State it clearly and simply.

The Fear/Challenge: Acknowledge the obstacle or emotion.

The Next Step: Name the one concrete action you will take today to move forward.

Conclusion: Rock On with Three!

The Irish gave us amazing stories, powerful music, and—lucky for us—a secret weapon for mental clarity. We don't need complicated systems; we just need the power of three!

By embracing the Triadic Structure, you’re not just being efficient, you’re connecting to an ancient, satisfying wisdom that brings order to your mind.

What three things are you going to focus on today? Share your most recent 'Memory Triad' from a special moment in the comments!

You Can Check Professor Kate Chadbourne's Video  Here

Marge Farrington OWRO 
 

The Gift of Presence: How We Can Rock the Holidays for Isolated Seniors!

 Hey Rockers!

The holiday season is officially upon us! We’re setting the stage for joy, gathering with loved ones, and maybe even rocking some festive sparkle. But let’s pause for a moment and focus our incredible energy on a group that often gets overlooked during the festive rush: our peers in nursing homes and assisted living facilities.

Many of these amazing people, who have lived full lives, may not have family or friends nearby to visit, especially this year. Their halls can feel lonely when they should feel bright.

This is where the Older Women Rock On community steps in! We know the value of connection, and we have the wisdom and warmth to make a real difference. Let's make it our mission to ensure no senior feels forgotten this holiday season.

🎁 Part I: Rocking the Practical Gift Drive

Think beyond the usual gifts and focus on what truly brings comfort and dignity. These items are always in high demand and make life instantly better for residents.

What to Donate: The Comfort & Care Kit

Warmth and Wear: Collect cozy, non-skid socks (essential for safety!), soft lap blankets or throws, and comfortable large-size elastic-waist pants.

Hygiene Heroes: This is huge! Body wash, scented hand lotion, gentle shaving cream, and large-print labeled toiletries are always needed.

The Lifeline Items: Call the Activities Director and ask about the biggest need. Often, it's adult pull-on undergarments or nutritional supplements like Ensure. Donating these necessities is the ultimate act of kindness!

Entertainment Boosters: Large-print books, simple puzzles (100-300 pieces are perfect), and decks of cards.

💡 Action Alert: Before you buy anything, call the facility's Activities Director and ask: "What are your three most-needed items?" This ensures your generous donation is immediately useful!

🗣️ Part II: The Gift of Presence—We Have Time!

Forget the fancy presents—the most valuable thing we can give is our time, our smile, and our company. This is where your unique "Older Woman Rock On" energy shines!

Ways to Volunteer Your Sparkle

The Adopt-a-Grandparent Challenge: Call a local facility and ask if they can identify a few residents who receive few or no visitors. Commit to "adopting" one or two of them for the month. A simple 30-minute visit once a week to chat and connect is life-changing.

The Conversation Starter: Don't know what to talk about? Bring in a few old magazines, photos of classic movie stars, or vintage holiday cards. These items are wonderful memory triggers that can spark a delightful conversation.

The Treat Team: Coordinate with a small group of friends to bake (or buy) holiday treats (check for dietary restrictions first!) and deliver them to residents. Nothing says "I care" like a warm cookie and a friendly face!

A Little Holiday Cheer: If you or a friend plays an instrument, offer a short, live musical performance. Even organizing a small group of friends to sing holiday songs in the common area brings massive joy.

🗺️ Part III: How to Find Programs in Your Area

Ready to jump in? Here are the best places to start your search, wherever you live:

The Local Experts: Call your city or county’s Council on Aging or Senior Center. They know exactly which local nursing homes or assisted living facilities have established holiday drives or volunteer needs.

National Programs: Google "Be a Santa to a Senior" or "Silver Bells program" along with your city name. These widespread initiatives are designed specifically for isolated older adults.

Local Faith Groups: Check with your local church or community group. They often have dedicated, year-round ministries that focus on outreach to nursing home residents.

This holiday season, let's use our incredible spirit to be the light for our peers. Let's show them that the Older Women Rock On community cares deeply about every single member of our generation.

What is the best way you have ever helped an isolated senior during the holidays? Share your ideas and success stories in the comments below!

Marge Farrington OWRO

Older Women Rock On: Elevating Your Mind—Supplements and Simple Steps for Mental Clarity and Joy

 

 Older Women Rock: Elevating Your Mind—Supplements and Simple Steps for Mental Clarity and Joy

The powerful woman you are deserves a mind that is sharp, clear, and resilient. As we age, it is completely natural to seek a little assistance in maintaining that clarity, especially when negative thoughts try to creep in. 

But achieving that elevated mental state doesn't require drastic changes or expensive programs! This guide, specifically for the woman who may be managing medications, is dedicated to exploring gentle, effective ways to support your brain's health. 

We’ll look at foundational supplements that nourish your mind's chemistry, alongside simple, low-cost activities and meaningful ways to connect with your community—all of which you can embrace right from the comfort of your home.

A Crucial First Step: The Health Disclaimer

Before You Begin: As we age, managing medications and existing health conditions becomes complex. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not medical advice.

Safety First: Always consult your doctor or a pharmacist before starting any new supplement, even natural ones, as they can interact with prescriptions (like blood thinners, blood pressure medication, or antidepressants). Your doctor can also test for deficiencies (like Vitamin D or B12) that may be the root cause of mental fog.

Part 1: Fueling Your Brain—Supplements for Clarity

Think of these supplements as targeted nourishment to help your brain’s chemistry and structure.

Omega-3s (EPA & DHA):

Mood Stabilizer & Anti-Inflammatory. Helps build healthy brain cell membranes and has a strong link to reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety, helping clear those negative thought loops.

L-Theanine:

Calm Focus. Promotes a state of "wakeful relaxation" (by boosting alpha brain waves), helping to quiet mental chatter and sharp worries without causing drowsiness.

Magnesium (Glycinate/Threonate):

The 'Anti-Stress' Mineral. Helps regulate your nervous system. Crucial for calming the mind, improving sleep, and reducing anxiety—all vital for clear, elevated thinking.

B Vitamins (B6, B12, Folate):

Energy & Neurotransmitter Support. Essential for making the "happy chemicals" (serotonin, dopamine). A common B12 deficiency can cause brain fog and fatigue, making negative thoughts feel heavier.

Adaptogens (e.g., Ashwagandha):

Cortisol Regulator. Helps your body handle everyday stress, reducing the intensity of your mental and emotional response to pressure and worry.

Part 2: Active Wellness—Simple, Low-Cost, Home-Friendly Boosts

Physical and mental exercise doesn't require a gym membership or expensive equipment. These actions are powerful, accessible ways to shift your mental state.

🧘 Mind/Body Practices: Free & Effective

Meditation & Deep Breathing:

Start with just 5 minutes of focusing on your breath. This practice helps you observe negative thoughts without becoming them, allowing them to pass instead of taking root.

Light Exercise:

Chair Yoga & Gentle Stretching: Perfect for homebound women. Focus on range of motion and improving circulation.

Indoor Walking: Walk in place or march around your kitchen!

YouTube Resources: Look for free videos on YouTube for: "Senior Chair Exercises," "Gentle Yoga for Older Adults," or "Balance Exercises for Seniors." Many channels, often run by physical therapists or doctors, include necessary disclaimers.

🧩 Mind Games & Hobbies: Keep Your Brain Flexible

Challenging your brain is like giving it a tune-up—it improves memory, focus, and mental speed.

Puzzles:

Jigsaw Puzzles enhance spatial reasoning.

Crossword Puzzles and Sudoku (often free in newspapers or online) boost language and logic.

Creative Outlets (Inexpensive):

Journaling/Writing: Start a simple gratitude journal or write a short story. Writing is a great way to process and release negative emotions.

Adult Coloring Books: A very low-stakes way to engage creativity and promote mindfulness.

Knitting/Crocheting: The repetitive motion is meditative, and the result is a rewarding, useful item.

Music Power:

Listen to or sing music that makes you happy. Music activates many parts of the brain, boosting memory and mood.

Try learning a simple instrument like the harmonica using free online tutorials.

Part 3: Connection—The Ultimate Mood Elevator

Loneliness and isolation are fuel for negative thought patterns. Cultivating connection is one of the most powerful anti-depressants.

📞 The Power of the "Kindness Call"

These calls are simple acts of friendly outreach that can brighten your day and the day of others.

Become a Check-In Caller:

Reach out to friends, neighbors, or fellow church/club members who you know are living alone. A quick, friendly check-in can break the isolation cycle for both of you.

Call local nursing homes or senior centers and ask if they have a program for "Friendly Calls" where volunteers talk to residents.

Create a "Gratitude Phone Chain":

Call one person and tell them one thing you are grateful for about them. Ask them to call someone else and do the same.

Read-Aloud to the Vision Impaired:

Volunteer to read books, articles, or mail over the phone for someone in your area who is visually impaired or has difficulty holding reading material.

💻 Accessible Virtual Volunteering (Inexpensive)

These roles use common home skills and allow you to contribute on your own schedule.

Virtual Proofreading/Editing:

Help local non-profits (churches, schools, charities) with light administrative tasks like reviewing grant proposals, newsletters, or website copy.

Digital Heritage Projects:

Volunteer with organizations like the Smithsonian Digital Volunteers or The Library of Congress to transcribe historical documents, making them accessible online.

Micro-Volunteering for Students:

Use sites like Be My Eyes (if you have a smartphone) to connect with blind or low-vision people via video call to help them with small, immediate tasks.

By combining foundational supplements with simple, purposeful activities, you can actively guide your mind toward clarity, resilience, and joy. You absolutely rock!

Marge Farrington OWRO

The Last Time

 I saw a video today of an older woman talking about "The Last Time."  How we don't know when these times are... Throughout life, we take for granted the phone calls, texts, visits with friends, with family. We don't know when that moment is the last time.

There are other times she spoke about, the last time your child will sit on your lap, that last cup of coffee with a parent, the last time you heard their voice. I thought about the hug you got from your child who is too grown up for that kiss on the cheek. 

Laughing with a friend over something only they would get, wanting to share that thought with that special person who is no longer around.  The simple things that you may not have realized were so precious. Looking back now, you see that, you feel it. The tears are mixed. You feel the joy of those moments, and you feel the pain of missing them. 

So, take a breath, feel that joy while it is happening. It is these times that used to be taken for granted, knowing now they are the most important in life.

Marge Farrington OWRO 

Older Women Rock On: Embrace the Silly during the Holidays, a Grown-Up Sleepover!

 

The holiday season is a whirlwind, isn't it? It’s filled with glittering lights, warm spices, and the comforting chaos of family gatherings. For years, we’ve been the orchestrators of that beauty—the chief planners, the perfect-meal-makers, the memory keepers.

But let's be honest: all that planning can drain the joy right out of the jingle bells. We often forget that we, too, need a break to simply be—to laugh until our sides hurt and to let go of the need for everything to be flawless.

This year, forget the perfectly laid tables and the pristine hostess performance. This year, we’re trading the stress for sparkle and giving ourselves permission to be profoundly, hilariously silly.

Your antidote to holiday stress? The Grown-Up Slumber Party.

🛌 Bring Back the Slumber Party: A No-Stress Zone

The rules are simple: No deep cleaning, no detailed schedules, and absolutely no stress talk. This is pure, unadulterated friend time—a throwback to the days when all that mattered was junk food, fun pajamas, and talking until 3 AM.

Location, Location, Laughter!

The best part? You have options, and both guarantee zero hosting stress while staying in:

Home Base: Host the party at one friend's house. The rule is that the host only provides the space—everyone else brings a snack, a blanket, and their own goofy spirit. No cleaning or elaborate preparation is allowed.

Holiday Hideaway (Motel/Hotel): This is the ultimate stress-remover. Book a suite at a local motel or hotel. This option instantly turns the gathering into a mini-vacation. No one has to clean up afterward, you can order room service breakfast, and the environment feels totally separate from your everyday responsibilities. (Tip: Look for suites with pull-out couches or adjoining rooms for the perfect slumber-party vibe!)

The Mandatory Checklist for Maximum Merriment:

Ugly Pajamas Only: This is non-negotiable. Break out the flannel, the mismatched socks, the questionable patterns, and anything with Santa's face on it. The goal is to be comfortable and ridiculous.

The Snacking Revival: Forget the cheese boards. We’re bringing back the food of our youth: microwave popcorn, instant hot cocoa, build-your-own ice cream sundaes (with too many sprinkles), and those nostalgic candies we forgot existed. Pair it with a nice bottle of wine or bubbly—it's the perfect grown-up twist.

Embrace the Glamour Fail: Face masks, hair rollers, and a mutual agreement to try that glittery eye shadow you'd never wear outside the house. It's about being messy, comfortable, and feeling pampered together.

Nostalgia Hour: Bring old photo albums or play board games from the 80s and 90s. There’s nothing that generates pure, honest laughter like reminiscing over terrible past fashion choices and unforgettable stories.

🤣 Quick Hits of Holiday Goofiness for Staying In

If a full sleepover isn't on the calendar, you can still inject some silliness into the season with your friends without leaving the house.

The White Elephant "Regift the Relic": Challenge everyone to bring the most absurd, unused item they currently own. The fun is in the history and the shared horror/laughter of these forgotten relics.

The Bad Holiday Craft Night: Gather cheap, chaotic crafting supplies—glitter glue, pipe cleaners, googly eyes. The mission: create the most intentionally terrible holiday ornament possible. The goal is failure, not perfection.

Retro Game Night: Dust off those old board games (or find modern silly ones!) like Twister, Cranium, or even charades. A little friendly, uncompetitive competition can lead to huge laughs.

🎁 Older Women Rock On: Give Yourself the Gift of Joy

The holidays are fleeting, but the memories we make when we allow ourselves to be truly us—unfiltered, happy, and a little bit silly—are the ones that last.

As older women, we have earned the right to prioritize joy! Your friends are waiting to laugh with you. Go send that invitation. Put on the silly pajamas. And remember: You already rock on, now it's time to play on.

Marge Farrington OWRO

The Ghost of You

I heard something today about change and the "ghost of you" meaning who you used to be...I feel most of who I was even from a child is much of who I am now, at 68 years old.  I don't know if it was the placement in my family, 5th of 6 children, middle daughter.

Maybe part of me is the environment I grew up in, nice home, always neat, clean, organized. Didn't have to worry about food, shelter, clothing. But seemed to be a target for my mother. She had her own "ghost of her." My mom grew up in a home that was nice, nothing lacking, but there was physical abuse that she never talked about, but was known. I believe alcohlism, my grandfather.

My mother had me and we moved when I was around 1 1/2 years old. She was on medication and could not get it right away as she needed a new doctor. She began to drink and then continue once she did get medication. Many women back then were given shock treatments, my mom was one. I don't know the exact number, but there were many. Anyway, for whatever reason, her focus was on me so many times, verbally and physically.

In school, I started getting bullied in 5th grade, went on until 9th. Later on, the term for these girls was 'mean girls." I had close friends, but these girls were on my school bus and would also get other girls I didn't know to come after me. I was a skinny kid, but I always stood up for myself, maybe because I had 3 older brothers. All this is a part of me. The difference now it doesn't haunt me. I came to understand my mom was sick. These girls, I don't know why they were the way that they were, maybe they continued to be bullies in other ways when they grew up. Maybe they regretted it. I will never know.

What I do know is, part of me that is not afraid to speak out, speak up, is from all those years. The friends I had got me through those times. Their support, their friendship, is priceless. I am still friends with a few of them this many years later.

I am still working on my knee-jerk reaction to situations, to people. I am still working on not taking things personally. We don't know what other people are going through. Sometimes we take things personally, and it has nothing to do with us. We just might be you're the one caught in the crossfire.

Until a few years ago, I was not in the space I am now. I would get panic attacks out of nowhere. I could be having a nice visit and have to excuse myself. This is "work" I will always be doing. It is an awareness I need as I don't want to fall back on my old ways of looking at things.  That part of the "Ghost of me" will always be with me. But I need to make sure it is not a part of me. T

The parts of the "Ghost of Me" that I embrace is the strength I learned I had, the value of true friends, looking at people and not taking everything personally, having confidence in myself.  I think of the girl I was, I can't go back in time and give her a hug. But somehow, once in a while I close my eyes,  see her, smile, and yes, give her a hug. Just maybe that part of the "Ghost of Me" will feel it.

The Ghost of Me doesn't haunt; it informs. I carry the lessons of my past without carrying the burden of other people’s pain. It took 68 years to get here, and the work continues. Do you feel the same way? Tell us: What is the biggest difference between the "you" you were ten years ago and the woman you are today?

Marge Farrington OWRO

🤧 Older Women Wisdom: The Immunity Boost for Cold & Flu Season

As the weather cools and we naturally transition our lives indoors, we know a thing or two about navigating cold and flu season. We've seen trends come and go, but the simple, time-tested acts of self-care and prevention remain the most effective. For those of us who are well-seasoned, staying vibrant and healthy isn't just about luck—it's about confidently applying our Elder Wisdom.

As the weather cools and we naturally transition our lives indoors, we know a thing or two about navigating cold and flu season. We've seen health trends come and go, but the simple, time-tested acts of self-care and prevention remain the most effective. For those of us who are well-seasoned, staying vibrant and healthy isn't just about luck—it's about confidently applying our Older Women Wisdom.

This November, let’s tap into that wisdom to keep our immune systems strong so we can continue to rock on, effortlessly, through the winter!

🛡️ Foundational Health: The Non-Negotiables of a Wise Woman

Before you pull out the honey and lemon, remember that the most powerful immunity booster in your arsenal is strategic prevention. Our years of experience remind us that taking a few minutes for health now saves days of feeling under the weather later.

Vaccines Are Your Shield: A Confident Choice. As we gather inside with family and friends this season, protecting ourselves is an act of self-respect and care for our loved ones. If you haven't yet, make sure you are confidently up-to-date on these crucial vaccines:

The Annual Flu Shot: Always essential, as the strains change yearly.

COVID-19 Booster: Stay current with the latest recommendations for your age group.

Pneumonia Shot: A critical protection layer, especially for older adults.

Shingles Vaccine: Often overlooked, but an important part of mature health maintenance.

🥣 Comfort & Cure: Recipes That Warm the Soul (and Boost the Gut)

A powerful, resilient immune system starts in the kitchen. We’ve collected a lifetime of recipes that are more than just delicious—they are simple, healing elixirs.

Older Women Wisdom Comfort Recipes:

The Healing Bone Broth: Whether you simmer chicken, beef, or vegetable scraps, a rich, slow-simmered broth is a classic powerhouse of collagen and minerals. It’s the ultimate comfort for the gut, where much of your immune strength resides.

Honey & Lemon Soother: The original cold remedy! Mix hot water with a generous spoonful of honey (a natural cough suppressant) and the juice of half a fresh lemon (Vitamin C boost). Simple, effective, and deeply soothing for a scratchy throat.

Garlic & Ginger Power Tea: Forget the pricey supplements. A simple homebrew of hot water, fresh grated ginger, and a clove or two of minced garlic is a potent, soothing tonic.

The Anti-Inflammatory Turmeric Paste: Mix turmeric powder with black pepper (to aid absorption) and warm it with milk for a nourishing, soothing "Golden Latte."

Call to Action for Readers: We all have that one recipe we swear by when a chill strikes. What is your go-to family recipe for health and comfort? Share your secret immunity weapon in the comments below!

🧘 Lifestyle Adjustments: The Time-Tested Trifecta of Well-Being

This is where true Older Women Wisdom shines: recognizing that your schedule and self-respect are your primary medicine. You have earned the right to prioritize your peace.

Prioritize Restful Sleep: Do not view rest as a luxury, but as a mandatory, non-negotiable immune-building session. Aim for 7–8 hours of quality, uninterrupted sleep every night. This is when your body repairs and regenerates.

Embrace Warm Hydration: Staying properly hydrated keeps your body functioning optimally and helps keep viruses from settling in. Focus on comforting, warm liquids: herbal teas, warm water with lemon, and, of course, your homemade broths.

Gentle, Light Movement: We know better than to push our bodies when they need support. A brisk, mindful walk in the fresh air, gentle stretching, or a short, joint-friendly yoga or Tai Chi session helps boost lymph flow and reduces stress, which are vital for a strong immune response.

💡 Traditional Remedies & Rituals That Still Work

We grew up with simple, effective rituals—and they remain excellent ways to find relief and speed recovery.

Vapor & Steam: At the first sign of congestion, use a humidifier or create a simple steam treatment. Carefully stand over a bowl of steaming hot water with a towel tented over your head to clear sinuses and soothe your throat.

Salty Rinse: Trust the classics! Gargle with warm salt water immediately if you feel a tickle in your throat to reduce inflammation and wash away germs.

Remember, taking excellent care of yourself is a privilege earned through wisdom and experience. 

Let’s make this season our healthiest yet!

 Marge Farrington OWRO

Older Women, Journaling Your Feelings

 How many times have you heard that journaling is a powerful tool for mental clarity, stress reduction, and emotional balance? You hear it for good reason: it’s medically and scientifically proven to help regulate your nervous system and process difficult thoughts. The goal is to externalize your emotions—to get them out of your head and into a format you can observe.

While traditional handwriting offers the deepest cognitive and neurological engagement (maximizing the benefits of Expressive Writing), the truth is, you don't need a fancy notebook and perfect penmanship to reap the benefits.

All the methods below are supported by science to reduce stress and boost well-being. You simply need to find the method that allows you to be the most consistent and honest.

1. ⌨️ Digital Journaling: The Organized Option (Backed by Cognitive Processing Studies)

If you're comfortable on your laptop, tablet, or phone, typing out your feelings is a fantastic, fast option. Typing still engages your brain in the process of cognitive restructuring—organizing jumbled thoughts into a linear narrative. This process is essential for gaining insight and distance from your emotions.

Recommendation: Google Notes (Keep)

Google Keep is an excellent, free tool for emotional journaling:

Easy Access: It’s a simple app for your phone or tablet and is also available right on your computer through the web.

Simple Organization: Use Labels (Folders) to organize your entries (e.g., "Daily Reflections" or "Gratitude List"). Start each note with the date (e.g., 2025-11-12) to keep things in chronological order.

Search Power: Use the powerful search function to quickly identify emotional patterns over time.

2. 🎤 Verbal Processing: Talk It Out (Backed by Affect Labeling Research)

If putting pen to paper or fingers to keys feels restrictive, talking it out is a powerful, medically-supported alternative. This is known in psychology as Affect Labeling. Neuroimaging studies show that the simple act of speaking and naming an emotion significantly reduces activity in the amygdala (the brain's fear center), promoting calmness and rational thinking.

How to Do It:

Use Your Phone/Tablet: Every modern device has a built-in Voice Memos or Recorder app.

On Your Computer: Use built-in voice recording software (like Voice Recorder or QuickTime).

Digital Recorders: If you want a dedicated, simple-to-use device, digital voice recorders are still widely available and offer excellent audio quality. (While old-school cassette recorders can still be found at specialty retailers, digital is usually easier for daily use!)

🧐 The Scientific Payoff: Why Reviewing Your Feelings Helps

Journaling is not a one-and-done process. The true power of consistent journaling—whether handwritten, typed, or recorded—comes when you go back and review what you wrote. This transforms a momentary release into a tool for long-term growth.

You may be surprised at how much this simple act helps you grow and heal:

1. Creates Cognitive Distance and Insight

The Surprise Factor: When you are caught in an intense emotion, it feels all-consuming. Reading an entry from a week or a month ago allows you to view that past self from a safe distance.

Scientific Reason: This distance is called cognitive defusion (or psychological distancing). It moves you out of the emotional "hot seat" and into the role of a neutral observer. When you read about past struggles, your brain can process them without the intense hormonal rush of the original event, promoting deep insight.

2. Highlights Emotional Progress and Resilience

You Solved It! Reviewing old entries is often a powerful reminder that you survived a situation or solved a problem that felt insurmountable at the time.

Scientific Reason: This provides immediate evidence of your resilience and self-efficacy (your belief in your ability to succeed). Seeing proof of your past success reinforces a positive "I can do this" mindset and strengthens your ability to handle current and future stress.

3. Identifies Patterns and Triggers

Forecasting Your Emotions: Do certain days, times, or specific situations reliably trigger a negative mood or reaction? You won't know unless you have a record to examine.

Scientific Reason: Reviewing your entries allows you to become your own behavioral scientist. By noticing recurring themes, you can proactively avoid triggers or prepare healthier coping strategies before a stressful situation arises—a key principle in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

✨ Your Journaling Motto: Consistency Over Perfection

Start with just 5 minutes a day, and find the flow—handwriting, typing, or talking—what works for you!

Let us know what you choose, how it is going in the comments!

Marge Farrington OWRO

Older Women Rock On: Spreading Holiday Cheer – Giving Back in Every Way!

 

The holiday season is here, and with it comes a beautiful opportunity to open our hearts and give back to our communities. Here at "Older Women Rock On," we believe that giving knows no age, no income bracket, and certainly no limits on creativity! Whether you have ample resources, a little to spare, or just a truly generous spirit and some time, there are countless ways you can make a profound difference this holiday season.

Let's explore how we, as amazing older women, can spread joy and support those in need – both two-legged and four-legged!

💰 Giving from the Heart: Resources Big and Small

For many of us, the holidays are a time when we can financially contribute. This might look like:

Donating to Reputable Charities: Many organizations work tirelessly during the holidays to provide food, shelter, and gifts to families and individuals in need. Even a small monetary donation can go a long way in providing a warm meal or a much-needed gift.

Shopping for a Cause: Consider "adopting" a family or a senior through local programs, where you can fulfill their specific wish lists for gifts or essential items. Many communities have programs through churches, community centers, or social services.

🐾 Supporting Families with Pets: Food and Care

Pets are family, and no senior or family should have to choose between feeding themselves or their beloved companion.

Animal Rescues and Shelters: Organizations like the Humane Society of the United States and the ASPCA always welcome donations. However, seek out local animal shelters and rescue groups that often have wish lists for specific items like food, blankets, and toys.

Pet Food Banks: Many local Meals on Wheels providers and general food banks now offer pet assistance programs to help families and seniors who are struggling. Monetary donations or donations of cat and dog food, cat litter, and even veterinary care can directly support these efforts.

⏱️ Giving Your Time: The Priceless Gift

Financial contributions are wonderful, but your time and compassion are equally, if not more, valuable. If monetary donations aren't feasible, consider these impactful ways to give back:

Highlight: Meals on Wheels

An excellent national program that focuses on the well-being of seniors is Meals on Wheels. This network of local providers delivers not just nutritious meals, but also crucial safety checks and friendly companionship to homebound seniors across the country.

Volunteer Driver: This is a perfect way to give about an hour of your time, offering both a meal and a friendly face to a senior in your area.

Other Opportunities: Many local Meals on Wheels programs also need volunteers for tasks like meal packing, pet food packaging (for their clients' pets!), and administrative support. To find a program and specific needs in your community, you can start by visiting the Meals on Wheels America website.

Creative Ways to Volunteer:

Be a "Card Angel": This is a beautiful, low-cost way to give meaningful support.

Foster Children: Organizations like Cards for Kids or local foster care agencies often coordinate programs where you can send uplifting, handmade, or store-bought holiday cards directly to children in foster care.

Elderly Residents: Many nursing homes and assisted living facilities appreciate cards sent to residents who feel isolated. A heartfelt note wishing someone well can truly brighten their day.

Connect with Seniors: Check with local nursing homes to see if you can volunteer to read, help decorate, or simply spend time chatting with residents who may not have family nearby.

💖 Share Your Sparkle: Let's Inspire Each Other!

Whether you signed up to deliver meals, dedicated an afternoon to walking shelter dogs, or simply sent a handful of heartfelt holiday cards, you are making a magnificent difference. Every single act of kindness, big or small, contributes to a happier, healthier, and more compassionate world.

We want to hear from you!

In the comments below, please share your giving ideas, your favorite national or local charities, or tell us about a simple act of service you plan to do this season! Let's use this space to inspire each other and keep the rock-on spirit of giving going all year long.

Talkin' to Myself

I found myself humming The Carpenters' "Rainy Days and Mondays" the other morning while struggling to open a jar of pickles. You know the line I mean, the one that sometimes feels like a whisper in our ear:

“Talkin’ to myself and feelin’ old Sometimes I’d like to quit Nothin’ ever seems to fit”

That last line, “Nothin’ ever seems to fit.” It’s a feeling I think many of us experience, a kind of existential low hum that accompanies this new chapter of life.

The Things We Took For Granted

No one really prepares you for the sheer volume of changes that arrive once the main act of raising a family or building a career winds down. It’s not just the big stuff; it’s the quiet erosion of the easy things.

The sudden, baffling difficulty of simple, physical tasks: twisting a lid, wrestling with a manual can opener, or simply reaching for that top shelf item. These are things we never registered as "effort," and now they demand focus, strategy, and sometimes, a little huff of frustration.

Then there are the aches and pains that arrive unannounced and take up permanent residence—the ones we can’t quite explain and certainly didn't sign up for.

The Weight of Loss and Transition

The physical changes are one thing, but the emotional landscape is another entirely. Getting older involves a profound amount of loss and shifting.

Our children are grown and gone, creating quiet houses and changing family dynamics.

We've downsized, or we're contemplating it, which means letting go of a space that held a lifetime of memories.

We miss the family we don't see as frequently.

We grieve the friendships that faded, either through death or simply growing apart due to distance or different paths.

This accumulation of changes, transitions, and genuine loss can leave us feeling adrift, like a boat whose anchor has been lifted. Sometimes, we just feel lost.

The Flow of the Creek

For a long time, my instinct was to block these feelings—to power through, to pretend they didn't exist. That never worked. It just created a dam, and the pressure built up until I felt truly overwhelmed.

What I've learned is that the only way through the emotions is acknowledgment.

Now, when those feelings of sadness, isolation, or loss surface, I stop and take a moment. I sit with them. I picture a creek flowing over stones. I gently place the acknowledged emotion—the sadness over a lost friend, the loneliness in an empty room—into the creek water, and I watch it flow by. It’s not about fixing it or stopping it; it’s about giving it passage.

Finding the Forward Motion

Acknowledging the emotional doesn't mean ignoring the physical. Instead of lamenting the things I can no longer do easily, I'm trying to pivot toward finding assistance and strength.

I search for ways to build back strength where I can, finding small exercises that help with balance or grip. I look for better tools—a quality electric can opener, a clever jar opener—to remove unnecessary daily frustration. And for the aches and pains, I am seeking help, researching what can be done, and learning how to manage this new body I live in.

This isn't about being "perky" or subscribing to some cheerful, airbrushed ideal of aging. It's about being real. It’s about accepting the transition, feeling the feelings, and then, finding the genuine, grounded ways to deal with the physical challenges so we can keep our feet firmly on the path forward.

Because while some days feel like "Rainy Days and Mondays," we still have a lot of life to live. And if we can talk about the messy, real parts honestly, we can certainly rock on.

Marge Farrington OWRO 11/8. 2025