Showing posts with label strong women. Show all posts
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Wednesday, November 12, 2025

Older Women, Journaling Your Feelings


 How many times have you heard that journaling is a powerful tool for mental clarity, stress reduction, and emotional balance? You hear it for good reason: it’s medically and scientifically proven to help regulate your nervous system and process difficult thoughts. The goal is to externalize your emotions—to get them out of your head and into a format you can observe.

While traditional handwriting offers the deepest cognitive and neurological engagement (maximizing the benefits of Expressive Writing), the truth is, you don't need a fancy notebook and perfect penmanship to reap the benefits.

All the methods below are supported by science to reduce stress and boost well-being. You simply need to find the method that allows you to be the most consistent and honest.

1. ⌨️ Digital Journaling: The Organized Option (Backed by Cognitive Processing Studies)

If you're comfortable on your laptop, tablet, or phone, typing out your feelings is a fantastic, fast option. Typing still engages your brain in the process of cognitive restructuring—organizing jumbled thoughts into a linear narrative. This process is essential for gaining insight and distance from your emotions.

Recommendation: Google Notes (Keep)

Google Keep is an excellent, free tool for emotional journaling:

Easy Access: It’s a simple app for your phone or tablet and is also available right on your computer through the web.

Simple Organization: Use Labels (Folders) to organize your entries (e.g., "Daily Reflections" or "Gratitude List"). Start each note with the date (e.g., 2025-11-12) to keep things in chronological order.

Search Power: Use the powerful search function to quickly identify emotional patterns over time.

2. 🎤 Verbal Processing: Talk It Out (Backed by Affect Labeling Research)

If putting pen to paper or fingers to keys feels restrictive, talking it out is a powerful, medically-supported alternative. This is known in psychology as Affect Labeling. Neuroimaging studies show that the simple act of speaking and naming an emotion significantly reduces activity in the amygdala (the brain's fear center), promoting calmness and rational thinking.

How to Do It:

Use Your Phone/Tablet: Every modern device has a built-in Voice Memos or Recorder app.

On Your Computer: Use built-in voice recording software (like Voice Recorder or QuickTime).

Digital Recorders: If you want a dedicated, simple-to-use device, digital voice recorders are still widely available and offer excellent audio quality. (While old-school cassette recorders can still be found at specialty retailers, digital is usually easier for daily use!)

🧐 The Scientific Payoff: Why Reviewing Your Feelings Helps

Journaling is not a one-and-done process. The true power of consistent journaling—whether handwritten, typed, or recorded—comes when you go back and review what you wrote. This transforms a momentary release into a tool for long-term growth.

You may be surprised at how much this simple act helps you grow and heal:

1. Creates Cognitive Distance and Insight

The Surprise Factor: When you are caught in an intense emotion, it feels all-consuming. Reading an entry from a week or a month ago allows you to view that past self from a safe distance.

Scientific Reason: This distance is called cognitive defusion (or psychological distancing). It moves you out of the emotional "hot seat" and into the role of a neutral observer. When you read about past struggles, your brain can process them without the intense hormonal rush of the original event, promoting deep insight.

2. Highlights Emotional Progress and Resilience

You Solved It! Reviewing old entries is often a powerful reminder that you survived a situation or solved a problem that felt insurmountable at the time.


Scientific Reason: This provides immediate evidence of your resilience and self-efficacy (your belief in your ability to succeed). Seeing proof of your past success reinforces a positive "I can do this" mindset and strengthens your ability to handle current and future stress.

3. Identifies Patterns and Triggers

Forecasting Your Emotions: Do certain days, times, or specific situations reliably trigger a negative mood or reaction? You won't know unless you have a record to examine.


Scientific Reason: Reviewing your entries allows you to become your own behavioral scientist. By noticing recurring themes, you can proactively avoid triggers or prepare healthier coping strategies before a stressful situation arises—a key principle in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

✨ Your Journaling Motto: Consistency Over Perfection

Start with just 5 minutes a day, and find the flow—handwriting, typing, or talking—what works for you!

Let us know what you choose, how it is going in the comments!

Marge Farrington OWRO

Friday, September 1, 2017

Aging Gracefully


                                                                       


As November gets closer, the big 60 is coming. Yep, hitting that 60 years old mark! I can remember when I was growing up thinking how old that number was! My grandparents, my parents, now, me? Really?

I don't feel my age most of the time. I am grateful to be here, so many don't make it this far. My mother-in-law died at the age of 47, my sister-in-law was only 52, a cousin in his 40's.

I have always loved the outdoors. As a kid, I would be outside, riding bikes, playing games all day. Now, I take walks, taking in the beauty of nature. I am in awe of it all!

I have had health issues in the past and know just how fast life can change. 

Our culture focuses on youth. I feel our most precious treasures are older people. They have been where the youth are going. 

No drama, laugh often, be grateful, love lots!

"Old age is no place for sissies" Bette Davis


Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Ways women over 50 can achieve financial fitness before retirement Part 3

                               
                                                                           


Fitness Mind & Body

When we think about financial goals, fitness of mind & body most likely isn't something we think about.. 

the following info was found on webmd

A complete fitness program must include the following:


Aerobic exercise. Walking, jogging, swimming, and dance exercise are good ones to try. Aerobic exercise works the large muscles in your body, benefitting your cardiovascular system -- and your weight. Work up to getting 20 or more minutes per session, 3 or 4 days a week. Make sure you can pass the “talk test,” which means exercising at a pace that lets you carry on a conversation.
Strength training. Lifting hand weights improves your strength and posture, maintains bone strength, reduces the risk of lower back injury, and also helps you tone. Start with a hand weight that you can comfortably handle for eight repetitions. Gradually add more reps until you can complete 12.
Stretching. Stretching exercises help maintain flexibility and range of motion in joints. They also reduce the risk of injury and muscle soreness. Yoga and Pilates are good forms of stretching exercise; they build core body strength and increase stability.
Make Exercise a Part of Your Daily Routine

Every bit of movement counts. If you're too busy for a regular workout, look for other ways to be in motion. Research shows that all those extra steps you take during the day add up to big health benefits. Here are some ideas to get you on your feet:

Adopt a dog and take it for walks every day.
Take the stairs instead of the elevator. At home, don't shout at your family members from the stairs -- go on up.
Get up and talk with co-workers, rather than sending emails. Have a meeting with one or two colleagues? Take it outside and make it a walking meeting.
Walk briskly whenever you can. Always wear comfortable shoes, or bring them with you, so that your feet can be your main mode of transportation.
Find a sport, game, or activity you like. You’ll stay committed to exercising if you’re doing something that you enjoy.

WebMD Medical Reference Reviewed by Nivin Todd, MD on April 17, 2015

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the following is my view

I can tell you that having a dog forces me to get up, get out and walk. 
If it's not possible to have a dog, ask a friend to walk with, this way you can support each other to get out and walk.
Join a fitness center, most offer reduced rates for older people.





Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Reflections of My Life


                 
Reflections of  My Life

                                                 My Bloom Today: Reflections of My Life


This photograph was taken yesterday when I went on a walk with my dog.
Now that I am just a month away from my 59th Birthday, I find myself reflecting on my life.
There's a quote that I love by Barbara De Angelis "Women need real moments of solitude and self-
reflection to balance how much of ourselves we give away."
Through the years, just as most women do, I have not taken time for those real moments as much as I needed. Women tend to put others before themselves. They give away so much of ourselves, eventually, it usually catches up to us, am I right?
I raised three daughters and tried to let them know that it is not selfish to take that time for yourself, just as my mom did with me. I do see them taking some time for themselves, so maybe they did hear me.
I fall into a pattern sometimes, not taking that time for solitude and self-reflection to keep that balance. Once in awhile, I have to remind myself and hear my own words.Please remember to take time for yourself.
The Times of Your Life a song most can relate to...

























               



Let Them!

I was  listening to a video on YouTube by a woman I follow, Mel Robbins. She's very good, she is down to earth, you have to handle some ...