Older Women Rock On: Spreading Holiday Cheer – Giving Back in Every Way!

 

The holiday season is here, and with it comes a beautiful opportunity to open our hearts and give back to our communities. Here at "Older Women Rock On," we believe that giving knows no age, no income bracket, and certainly no limits on creativity! Whether you have ample resources, a little to spare, or just a truly generous spirit and some time, there are countless ways you can make a profound difference this holiday season.

Let's explore how we, as amazing older women, can spread joy and support those in need – both two-legged and four-legged!

💰 Giving from the Heart: Resources Big and Small

For many of us, the holidays are a time when we can financially contribute. This might look like:

Donating to Reputable Charities: Many organizations work tirelessly during the holidays to provide food, shelter, and gifts to families and individuals in need. Even a small monetary donation can go a long way in providing a warm meal or a much-needed gift.

Shopping for a Cause: Consider "adopting" a family or a senior through local programs, where you can fulfill their specific wish lists for gifts or essential items. Many communities have programs through churches, community centers, or social services.

🐾 Supporting Families with Pets: Food and Care

Pets are family, and no senior or family should have to choose between feeding themselves or their beloved companion.

Animal Rescues and Shelters: Organizations like the Humane Society of the United States and the ASPCA always welcome donations. However, seek out local animal shelters and rescue groups that often have wish lists for specific items like food, blankets, and toys.

Pet Food Banks: Many local Meals on Wheels providers and general food banks now offer pet assistance programs to help families and seniors who are struggling. Monetary donations or donations of cat and dog food, cat litter, and even veterinary care can directly support these efforts.

⏱️ Giving Your Time: The Priceless Gift

Financial contributions are wonderful, but your time and compassion are equally, if not more, valuable. If monetary donations aren't feasible, consider these impactful ways to give back:

Highlight: Meals on Wheels

An excellent national program that focuses on the well-being of seniors is Meals on Wheels. This network of local providers delivers not just nutritious meals, but also crucial safety checks and friendly companionship to homebound seniors across the country.

Volunteer Driver: This is a perfect way to give about an hour of your time, offering both a meal and a friendly face to a senior in your area.

Other Opportunities: Many local Meals on Wheels programs also need volunteers for tasks like meal packing, pet food packaging (for their clients' pets!), and administrative support. To find a program and specific needs in your community, you can start by visiting the Meals on Wheels America website.

Creative Ways to Volunteer:

Be a "Card Angel": This is a beautiful, low-cost way to give meaningful support.

Foster Children: Organizations like Cards for Kids or local foster care agencies often coordinate programs where you can send uplifting, handmade, or store-bought holiday cards directly to children in foster care.

Elderly Residents: Many nursing homes and assisted living facilities appreciate cards sent to residents who feel isolated. A heartfelt note wishing someone well can truly brighten their day.

Connect with Seniors: Check with local nursing homes to see if you can volunteer to read, help decorate, or simply spend time chatting with residents who may not have family nearby.

💖 Share Your Sparkle: Let's Inspire Each Other!

Whether you signed up to deliver meals, dedicated an afternoon to walking shelter dogs, or simply sent a handful of heartfelt holiday cards, you are making a magnificent difference. Every single act of kindness, big or small, contributes to a happier, healthier, and more compassionate world.

We want to hear from you!

In the comments below, please share your giving ideas, your favorite national or local charities, or tell us about a simple act of service you plan to do this season! Let's use this space to inspire each other and keep the rock-on spirit of giving going all year long.

Reclaiming You – Solo Self-Care and Intentional Outings!

In Part 1, we mastered the Sweatpants Soirée with friends. In Part 2, we re-prioritized our partners. Now, we reach the most critical installment of our Feel-Good Holiday Fun Series: Reclaiming You.

The holidays are notorious for turning us into human doing machines. We are the planners, the buyers, the wrappers, and the cheerleaders. But you can't pour from an empty champagne glass! This part is about setting aside sacred, non-negotiable time for solo self-care and intentional excursions that recharge your spirit.

The Solo Reset: Your Quiet Anchor

With the kids grown and the home base established, the self-care required is not about squeezing in chores, but about carving out time for intentional, high-quality relaxation.

1. The Spa State of Mind

This time is dedicated to beautifying and relaxing—no effort required.

Professional Indulgence: If you can swing it, book yourself a dedicated spa day. A massage, a facial, or even a professional manicure/pedicure where your only task is to relax.

Elevated At-Home Spa: If staying in is your preference, elevate your routine. Use the fancy robe, light a great candle, and dedicate an hour to an intense moisturizing treatment, a deep conditioning hair mask, or even practicing a new, dramatic makeup look just for fun. The goal is to feel stunning without the stress of an event.

2. The Quiet Culture Trip

Instead of the overwhelming holiday crowds, seek out spaces designed for peaceful contemplation.

Take Time for Quiet Culture: Visit an art gallery, a local history museum, or even a beautiful architectural space like a library or conservatory. These environments demand nothing from you except quiet observation. It’s a wonderful, low-energy way to engage your mind and experience the world without the pressure of socializing.

Intentional Outings: Recharging in the Community

Sometimes, the best self-care involves leaving the house for activities that feel restorative, not draining.

3. Shopping with Soul

The stress of holiday shopping often comes from facing crowded, generic mega-stores. Let’s change the scene.

Shop Local, Browse Slow: Turn shopping into a mindful experience. Head to your favorite downtown street or neighborhood market. The mission isn't to cross off a list; it’s to enjoy the atmosphere. Shop local stores not just for gifts, but for the pleasure of discovery. Notice the unique window displays, talk to the small business owners, and appreciate the community vibe. The experience itself is the reward.

The Takeaway: You Rock, Too

This season isn't just about sharing joy—it’s about having joy to share. Give yourself the gift of time, solitude, and intentional fun. When you feel fabulous and recharged, every other part of your holiday shines brighter.

This is Part 3 of Your Feel-Good Holiday Fun Series!

Thank you for joining us on this journey! Let us know how you prioritized joy this year in the comments!

 

The Gift of Us This Holiday Season

 

In Part 1, we tackled the art of The Cozy Connection – The Secret to a Stress-Free Holiday "Your Feel-Good Holiday Fun Series! Now, let’s pivot. The holiday hustle demands so much of our energy that our significant other often gets the exhausted, low-battery version of us. Not this year. This installment is dedicated to making one night—one special night—sacred. It’s not about extravagance; it’s about intention. We're focusing on meaningful, low-stress time that reminds you both why you started this journey together. Mandate the Date: The Non-Negotiable Night The first step in reclaiming romance is to schedule it and defend it fiercely. Whether it’s a night in or a dinner out, the rule is simple: Zero Discussion of the Holiday Chore List. No talk of gifts, travel logistics, or who is bringing what appetizer. The Dinner Pivot: At Home or Away If You Go Out: Choose your favorite, most comfortable restaurant—not the fanciest new spot that requires a complicated reservation. Pick the place where you know the waiter and the menu by heart. The goal is background comfort. The conversation should be about anything but the holidays. Discuss the last book you read, a favorite memory, or your dreams for the year ahead. If You Stay In: This is the ultimate move for relaxation. The Anti-Gourmet Meal is mandatory. Order takeout from your favorite local spot, pull out that fancy china you never use, and light every single candle in the house. The goal is to make the living room or dining room feel like a five-star destination, even if the food arrived in a paper bag. The low light and cozy atmosphere instantly melt the stress away. The Comfort Consumption Menu Once dinner is done, the night should be dedicated to simple, shared, comforting sensory input. This is where your favorite movies and music come in. 1. The Power of Familiar Sound Turn off the news, put away the phones, and choose an album or a playlist that holds meaning for both of you. Go Nostalgic: Put on the music you listened to when you first started dating. Music has an incredible power to transport you back to that easier, less complicated time. Intentional Listening: Don't just let it be background noise. Sit on the couch, close your eyes, and listen. Then, talk about which song is your favorite and why. It's an easy, deep way to share the quiet space without needing a grand conversation. 2. The Cozy Classic Movie Rewind The last thing you need is a new, complex three-hour movie that demands your full, tired attention. The goal is low-effort snuggling. Choose a Favorite: Put on one of those movies you've seen a hundred times—the kind you can fall asleep to and still know what happens. This shared, gentle familiarity is incredibly bonding. It's not about the plot; it's about the presence of each other on the couch. Pajamas are Essential: Just like the friend soirée, embrace the casual dress code. The commitment to comfortable pajamas signals to your brain: I am safe, I am home, and I am relaxed. Giving the Best Version of You The most fabulous thing you can give your partner this season is your time and your attention, completely unplugged from the demands of the world. Schedule your special night now, protect it from interruptions, and enjoy the pure, simple joy of just being together. This is Part 2 of Your Feel-Good Holiday Fun Series! Coming up next: We dive into Part 3: Reclaiming You – The Power of Solo Self-Care and Intentional Outings!

Your Guide to Feel-Good Holiday Fun!

The holiday buzz is starting, but forget the pressure! This season, we're making a firm decision to prioritize fun, fabulousness, and feeling good. Here at Older Women Rock, we believe the best gift you can give yourself is the permission to ditch the "holiday chore list" and embrace genuine, low-stress joy.

This special series is dedicated to maximizing your festive spirit, whether you're celebrating solo or making new memories with your significant other. We’re kicking things off right now with high-impact ideas for cozy nights and joyful connections.

You won't want to miss our secret formula for a stunning, stress-free season! Stay Tuned!

The Mailbox Lifeline: Reviving the Lost Art of the Holiday Card

When my family moved away, leaving my friends behind, the mailbox was my daily lifeline. Going out to the curb and seeing an envelope with familiar handwriting wasn't just getting mail; it was a tangible connection back to the people I missed.

There is something profoundly, beautifully different about holding a letter in your hand. It’s personal, heavier, and more real than any email, text, or social post could ever be. You can feel the time someone took—to choose the paper, to write the words, to affix the stamp—and that effort is the message itself: "I took this time just for you."

That feeling, that tradition, is going by the wayside, and as older women who know the value of connection, it's time to become the Holiday Mail Mavericks and bring that magic back. This year, let’s make sure a physical piece of kindness lands in a lot of hands.

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👵 Operation: Reclaim the Mailbox

Our mission starts simply: with a pen and a stamp. We can reclaim this tradition in two powerful ways: by sending heartfelt cheer to our own loved ones, and by extending that kindness to the thousands of isolated people out there who need it most.

1. Start at Home: The Power of a Personal Note

We can start by showing the younger generation the sheer thrill of real mail.

• The Little Ones: For grandchildren and young relatives, a card is an event! Imagine their faces when they open a heavy, decorated envelope. You’re not just sending a note; you’re building a family tradition. Suggest tucking in a fun sticker, a pressed flower, or a short, hand-drawn picture.

• The Old Guard: Dust off that address book! Send cards to old college friends, distant cousins, or former neighbors you haven't seen in years. That surprise "thinking of you" from across the miles can be the most meaningful gift they receive. The effort you put into writing it is a clear message: "You matter."

2. Spreading the Love: Mail for the Isolated

This is where your efforts can make the most significant impact. Isolation is a serious issue for both children and seniors, and a handwritten note can be a simple, profound remedy.

🧒 Mail for Children

While the "Dear Santa" letters often lead to gifts, there are ways you can send pure encouragement to kids facing tough times.

• Cardz For Kidz: This organization is a perfect fit for sending uplifting, handmade cards to children in hospitals and others facing challenges. It’s an easy, low-pressure way to send a burst of cheer that doesn't involve buying presents.

• USPS Operation Santa: For those who feel like playing Santa's helper! Volunteers can adopt a letter written to Santa from a child or family in need. The letter's personal details are hidden, so you can safely send a gift and a signed note from Santa to make a holiday wish come true.

👵 Our Special Mission: Mail for Seniors

As older women, we know how loneliness can creep in. Sending a card to an isolated senior is an act of empathy and incredible kindness.

• Letters Against Isolation: This is an ongoing program where you can write friendly, handwritten, upbeat letters to seniors living in care facilities across several countries. They specifically ask for general "Dear Friend" letters, making it easy to share a little anecdote or a happy thought.

• Love For Our Elders: This organization posts specific monthly letter requests featuring short bios of individual seniors who would love some mail. Choosing one of these profiles allows you to write a highly personal and targeted message.

• Local Nursing Homes: Don't forget your local community! Call an assisted living facility or nursing home in the area and ask if you can drop off a bundle of cards for their residents during the holidays.

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🖋️ Tips for Your Handwritten Happiness

Before you seal that envelope, keep these simple guidelines in mind, especially when sending to a program:

• Print Clearly: For seniors and people with vision issues, use large, clear print rather than elaborate cursive. A thoughtful message should be an easy read.

• Keep it Cheerful: Your goal is to bring a smile. Stick to positive, light topics. Share a funny pet anecdote, a beautiful moment you saw in nature, or a favorite holiday memory.

• Protect Your Privacy: When writing to organized programs, only use your first name (or first name and location) for your signature. Never include your full address or personal contact information.

Let's make this the year we exchange the hurried text for the purposeful stamp. The gift of a minute spent with a pen in hand can be the greatest gift someone receives all season. Let’s lead the charge!

Marge Farrington

P.S. Let us know in the comments what you think and especially if you follow through with this idea!

Decorating a Small Space for Christmas

                                                                     

        It's that time of year...you'd like to decorate your place for Christmas, your small space. How 

much is too much? What size decorations? How, where to place them? 

               

                                           

Smaller items on a table can really make a corner festive, especially when placed in front of a small tree!

                                                        

                                    Welcome guests into your home during the holidays!

Check out my Pinterest to find more ideas for the holidays!

Find my pins on Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/maggiemay57/pins/

Tips for Holiday Depression for Elderly, Family and Caretakers

                                                                       

Approximately 6 million people over 65 are depressed. But unfortunately, few seek treatment. Chronic health issues, feelings of loneliness, and loss of loved ones can exacerbate feelings of depression and make the holidays a very difficult time for some seniors.

Following is a resource guide for the elderly, their caregivers and their family members with tips and advice on how to beat holiday depression.

FOR CAREGIVERS

Look for signs of depression. As this article from the Geriatric Mental Health Foundation explains, the holidays can be a difficult time for older adults who may be dealing with the loss of loved ones and past traditions. The article points out that while feeling blue can be normal, depression isn’t. The article notes that it is important for caretakers to be on the look out for signs of depression, such as persistent sadness, frequent tearfulness, weight changes, changes in sleep patterns, etc.

Plan holiday outings and events. As this article notes, one way caregivers can help older adults avoid holiday depression is to plan fun holiday activities. For example, the article suggests going caroling, including them in decorating, making holiday crafts, taking them holiday shopping, etc.

Listen. As this article on geriatric depression notes, one of the best things you can do is take time to truly listen to the older adults under your care. It recommends taking 15 minutes each day to spend just listening to them. It is important for them to be able to talk about their feelings and to know that they’re being heard.

Encourage them to talk about old memories. As this article from GTN News notes, an elderly person who has undergone changes either as result of the death of a spouse or moving to a care facility may need help connecting meaning to the holidays. The article suggests that a great way to help them do so is to encourage them to talk about their memories of past holidays. Sit with the person and look through photo albums or watch family videos, if available to you. And then, as mentioned above, listen carefully to the stories they tell.

Plan quiet time. The Caregiver Alliance at Central Boston Elder Services provides this “Caregivers Guide for Managing the Holidays.” It provides many great tips for caregivers on how to help themselves during the holidays and how to help those they care for. One great tip is to be sure to plan quiet time. The holidays are full of hustle and bustle and this can be disruptive to an elderly person. Plan some quiet time between the holiday parties and family visits so that they can recharge their batteries.

Use the Geriatric Depression Scale. As this article from the National Care Planning Council explains, the Geriatric Depression Scale was developed to provide a simple way to screen elderly people for depression. It asks “Yes/No” questions and its scores can be used to decide whether an elderly person may need additional care for their depression.

Take them for a drive to see Christmas lights. This article from TheCitizen.com provides tips on how to help the elderly with depression during the holidays. One tip suggests taking seniors for a drive to see Christmas lights. It’s a great way to get them out of the house for a bit and is the perfect outing for those with mobility issues.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself. The holidays can be hard on caregivers, too. This article provides tips on how to prevent the “caregiving blues” during the holidays. It suggests asking others to help lighten your load, meditating, avoiding striving for perfection, and many other great tips to boost your own mental health this holiday season.

FOR FAMILY MEMBERS

Before Checklist

Consider recent changes that could cause depression. As this article notes, certain life changes can trigger depression in older adults. It provides advice on how to help a parent deal with depression that follows the diagnoses of the following illnesses/health problems:

Depression and diabetes
Depression and Parkinson’s disease
Depression and stroke
Depression and Alzheimer’s disease
Depression and chemotherapy
Depression and a broken hip
Depression after a heart attack
Depression and pneumonia or the flu
Depression and vision loss
Depression and radiation therapy
Depression and breathing problems
Find ways to include elderly family members in your holiday prep. This article provides many great tips on how to help elderly family members who may feel depressed during the holidays. One tip emphasizes the importance of helping them keep busy and active. A great way to do that is to include them in your own holiday prep and planning.

During Checklist
Assess how they’re doing overall. This article from AARP suggests you can make the most of the holidays by using the time with your elderly loved one to assess how they’re faring. It recommends considering areas such as mobility, health, and finances. These are all problem spots that can contribute to depression when difficulties arise.

Help with specific tasks. As this article from the Crestview News Bulletin notes, holiday traditions are important and simply helping an elderly relative carry on those traditions can mean a lot to them. The article provides tips on how to do so. For example, you might help an elderly loved one with their favorite holiday recipe, help them decorate and/or wrap presents, help them send holiday cards to their other loved ones, and so on.

Don’t ask them to “snap out of it.” This article on caring for someone with depression provides a great reminder: If an elderly loved one seems depressed during the holidays, it isn’t productive or helpful to ask them to “snap out of it” or “get their act together.” Instead, encourage them to talk about what they’re feeling.

If you can’t visit, call. As this article notes, you may live away from your elderly relative and aren’t able to be with them during the holidays. If so, be sure to call them frequently and encourage other family members and friends to call them. Also, the article suggests encouraging your elderly relative to take part in holiday activities and events. Staying busy can be a great way to beat the holiday blues.

After Checklist

Watch for ongoing signs of depression. As this article notes, what at first may seem like the “holiday blues” could turn into depression if not treated. If signs of depression continue in an elderly relative after the holidays are over, help them seek treatment.

Keep up communication. As this article notes, the fun and excitement that come with the holidays may actually help to buoy your loved one’s spirits. Sometimes the trouble can come after the holidays when elderly loved ones may experience loneliness or post-holiday sadness. The article recommends visiting elderly loved ones frequently after the holidays. If you don’t live close by, call or send cards. Just let them know you’re thinking about them.

Follow up. This article from the National Alliance on Mental Illness provides tips on helping a depressed family member during the holidays. As it notes, if you’ve spoken to an elderly loved one about seeking care for their depression, be sure to follow up with them after the holidays. Don’t let the matter drop. Check in with them to see if they’ve sought help and ask if they need help.

For the Elderly

Know how to beat the holiday blues. As this article notes the American Geriatrics Society's Health in Aging Foundation recognizes that the holidays can be a difficult time of year for older adults. It points readers to the Foundation’s “Tips for Beating the Holiday Blues,” which provide great advice for the elderly, such as “get out and about,” “drink responsibly,” “talk to someone,” and more.

Remember loved ones but make new traditions. This article from WebMD provides great advice on how to protect ones mental health during the holidays. Some of the tips are especially good for older adults to keep in mind. For example, if you’ve lost loved ones and/or won’t be able to enjoy the usual holiday traditions, the article recommends starting a new tradition, something everyone can enjoy. It also recommends finding ways at the holidays to commemorate those you’ve lost.

Be aware of holiday depression triggers. This article from Health.com provides 11 great tips on how to stay positive and truly happy during the holidays. Here they are:

Plan ahead.
Avoid family conflict.
Forget perfection.
Learn to grieve.
Schedule some sleep.
Get help.
Prioritize workouts.
Consider your light exposure.
Focus on what matters.
Don’t binge on food and alcohol.
Cut back on commitments.
Don’t wait for the feelings to pass. This article from the Providence Journal provides tips on how to handle holiday depression. One of the tips stresses the importance of getting help if you’re feeling depressed. Discuss how you’re feeling with your doctor. As the article reminds, depression is an illness and going untreated will only make things worse.

Eat healthy. As this article notes, the holidays bring with them lots of unhealthy holiday treats and beverages. Be careful not to overdo it. Understand, as the article says, that “good physical health contributes to good mental health.”

Don’t feel guilty if you can’t afford certain gifts. As this article notes, you may be living on a fixed income, which means you may not be able to afford expensive gifts for family members. Don’t let this get you down. Make a budget for gifts and stick to it. Being responsible with your money will help prevent money worries later on.Let go of past resentments. If you’re holding on to old grudges with family members or other close ones, this article from Psychology Today, recommends letting them go. It suggests that holding on to these resentments can contribute to the holiday blues. Let those negative feelings go and enjoy the holidays.

Don’t give in to loneliness. As this information from the Mayo Clinic notes, the holidays can be stressful and stress can lead to or worsen depression. If part of your holiday stress comes from feeling lonely, the article recommends that you reach out to family members or other loved ones. Participate in holiday activities or, if you’re able, volunteer with a nonprofit and give back to others in your community.

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Holidays, Hurtful Times and Giving

Let's face it, for so many people, holidays are really hurtful times. Women tend to talk about those feelings. Speaking for myself, a flood of memories hit me like a wave at this time of year.

I get that "homesick" feeling when thinking of my children when they were young, making the holidays a magical time.

I miss my parents, memories that I tuck away all year make their way to daily thoughts.

So, what do you feel during these times? How do you not only cope with them, but do something to make things better?

I get into my writing, make phone calls to childhood friends I have kept in touch with..they know the real me. I don't just talk, I listen to them.

This year my plan is to do some Christmas shopping for our local pet rescue and also pick up a toy for children in need.

Here are some suggestions you may like:

Volunteer Match  is a great place to find a cause you would like to volunteer, how, where and when.

Animal Humane Society Volunteer From in-shelter support to at-home foster care, volunteers are involved in every part of the work we do at all five of our shelter locations. Our volunteers help make the world a more humane place for animals. (if you can't volunteer, there is always a need for food, blankets, etc.)

Newborns in Need

Clothing for the tiniest children

Four years ago, single mom Sue T. delivered her son Daron 14 weeks early. She was poor, alone, and by her own admission, "jaded and cynical." After searching everywhere for affordable clothing that would fit her preemie, she learned about Newborns in Need, which provides clothing and blankets for poor and premature babies.

"When the boxes arrived with the supplies I needed, it restored my faith in humanity," Sue recalls. Her situation improved, and today, she is a volunteer with the organization, helping other women and infants.

Last year, Newborns in Need volunteers distributed more than 350,000 pieces of clothing and baby gear to 2,000 hospitals, shelters, and families across the country. The organization is looking for donations of blankets, sleepers, gowns, all-in-ones, hats, booties, bottles, pacifiers, and disposable diapers. Contact: 417-967-9441 or https://newbornsinneed.org/

Local Food Pantries, Soup Kitchens are always in need of donations or volunteers.

If you are not able to get out to volunteer, you can always make online donations.

Oh, don't forget about yourself, treat yourself to a day out for you. What would you like to give to you! A piece of jewelry you have wanted, get your nails done, a lunch date with someone you haven't seen in awhile..do something for yourself that you would usually make you feel guilty!

**So, today's Bloom, make yourself feel better by giving, to others and to yourself!**

                                                          

Technology and Family

                                                                   

                                                                         

Technology has had positive and negative influences on people's lives in so many ways.

Older people are no exception. 

Some of the positive ways, on a tech device it's usually easy to have a video call with our adult children and grandchildren. A simple emoji or a nice text message can be sent. Sending and receiving photographs and videos help us to see our family.

The downside: A text message on a special day instead of a phone call, not hearing you children's or grandchildren's voices for months at a time. The special times you may have had as a child with your own grandmother was something you wanted with your own grandchildren.

Yes, we understand that our children have their own lives, but to not even include us with a visit ever once in awhile, actually calling rather than texting.

Do you find yourself looking at your cell phone and wondering why they don't call? You can't figure it out because there hasn't been an argument, nothing you can pinpoint that was said or done to cause friction.

It's hard to find a way of coping with the emotional pain. There's no easy way to bring it up.

All I can tell you is that you are not alone, there are many older people out there going through the same thing.

No, technology is not the only reason for this confusing situation. But it's a convenient way for a relationship to be placed at a distance.