There is a quiet, heavy feeling that many of us face as the years pass—a sense of becoming invisible. We walk through the grocery store, navigate our neighborhoods, or scroll through our phones and feel a nagging doubt: Does my presence still matter? Will I be remembered?
These feelings are real. They are valid. We shouldn't suppress them; we should acknowledge them. But we must also refuse to let them be the final word on our value.
The Invisible Ripple
Think back to your 5th-grade teacher. For me, it was his first year teaching. He likely had no idea that his excitement for science and the joy he brought to the classroom would stay with a student decades later. He created a ripple that is still moving today.
Now, turn that lens on yourself. You have created thousands of ripples:
The strength you showed colleagues during a difficult project.
The kind word you offered a stranger who looked overwhelmed.
The simple gesture of holding a door or sharing a genuine smile.
The friends you’ve lost touch with who still carry a piece of your wisdom or a memory of your laughter.
You have touched lives in ways you will never fully know. Your value is not a tally of how many people call you today; it is the permanent mark you have left on the fabric of the world.
Reaching Out: The Two-Way Street
Sometimes we feel forgotten because others are caught in their own storms. Younger generations are often running at a breakneck pace, and peers may be struggling with their own feelings of isolation.
Reach out first: Before assuming they don't care, send a text or make a call.
Release the outcome: If you reach out and the door remains closed, it’s okay to find a new road. Your energy is precious.
Check the "Why": If you aren't getting out because of logistics—transportation, budget, or health—it is time to lean on the community you’ve helped build.
Resources: Finding Your New Road
If you feel stuck at home, there are hands reaching back out to you. You just have to know where to look:
Mobility & Transport: Many counties offer "Dial-a-Ride" or senior paratransit services that provide free or low-cost transportation for grocery trips and social appointments.
The Hub of Connection: Your local Senior Center is often the heartbeat of the community. They offer everything from technology classes (to help you stay connected online) to fitness and crafting circles.
Intergenerational Programs: Look for "Foster Grandparent" programs or local library reading hours. Younger generations need your stories and your "ripple."
Virtual Villages: Organizations like Village to Village Network help older adults age in place by connecting them with local volunteers for errands and social visits.
Daily Inspiration: For local news and stories that keep you connected to the community right here in Western North Carolina, be sure to check wnctimes.
Final Thought
Don't let the silence of a phone define the volume of your life. You have been a teacher, a friend, a pillar of strength, and a source of kindness. Those ripples don't stop just because the water looks still.
Rock on, ladies. You are seen, and you are significant.
Let's Talk about what works for you? We all go through these times. What actions have you taken? Let us know in the comments.
This blog is not just for me to talk, I am looking for conversation!
Marge Farrington OWRO
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