Ideas for coping when your adult child cuts you out of their life.
Allow yourself to grieve – – this is a shocking loss.
Don’t try to pretend all is well, but along with (or after) crying, being angry, etc., begin to take action toward making yourself (your feelings) and your life (how you spend your time) better.
Think of other hard things you’ve gotten through, and tell yourself you CAN and WILL get through this too.coping when an adult child is estranged
Accept that your future is different than you expected … and accept the uncertainty that goes with an adult child’s estrangement. Then allow yourself to believe you can have a good future, even though your path has taken a twist.
Get involved in new things, old things that make you happy … activities you can enjoy. See Lila’s story.
Catch yourself in the act of feeling bad about what you can’t change, and stop the negative thoughts. Shift your perspective.
If you can’t figure out what happened, make a decision to give up asking why. Or settle on an answer for the moment (i.e., he’s following his wife to save his marriage, there’s some other problem you don’t know about, there’s mental illness of some sort, an addiction, etc and so on … whatever fits). Let it go. Some things just can’t be understood.
Focus on the good relationships, and the good parts of your life — and multiply them.
Don’t worry about the judgment of other people, and forgive them for it. But also protect yourself from people who are hurtful to you.
Find activities that fulfill your need to give and receive (love, help, generosity, kindness, etc).
**I found these suggestions on rejectedparents.net The article is very good, just click the link to read it.
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